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Five Ways to ‘Bounce Back’ from Grief

May 15, 2013

Back to "Find Support for Grief" in the Pet Parent Resource Center.

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Grieving is a normal and necessary healing process. When you've experienced loss, your body naturally attempts to 'purge' toxins that have accumulated within from the fear, anxiety, and sadness you've been feeling. This is why you feel a need to cry and talk about your loved one over and over. You literally need to 'get it out of your system.'

 

And as you probably know, a 'grief purge' can feel overwhelming. In the depths of grief, while you're sobbing, ranting, and wailing, you may feel a little bit 'crazy.' You might even worry that you may not 'come back' to your sane, stable self. Yet, it's important to allow yourself to grieve this deeply and fully. Think of it as the process of becoming whole again.

 

Here are five ideas for 'bringing yourself back' after a healing 'grief purge.'

  1. Set an alarm. Put 20 minutes on a timer, then lose yourself in grief. When the alarm rings, stretch, move around, drink water, and gently bring yourself back to the present. Check in with your body. You probably feel drained and tired, but are you also more relaxed and calmer, feeling more satisfied?

  2. Schedule a visit with a supportive person. Arrange to meet with an understanding friend or family member immediately following a 'grief purge' session. Tell this person you're in the midst of grief and want to look for some comforting time with a friend. Tell them you don't want them to cheer you up, help you problem-solve, give you advice or "fix" anything for you. You simply want them to listen to your feelings and memories. Be respectful of your support system and don't exhaust them in the process! Talk about your loss for about 30 minutes and then turn your conversation to other topics.

  3. Save time for a nap. Crying and thinking and talking can be exhausting. Set aside 20-30 minutes to replenish yourself.

  4. Cue up your favorite music. Music is a powerful way to alter a mood. Don't use it to avoid your grief, but to soothe yourself after grieving. Before you immerse yourself in grief, make sure your music is ready to play. Afterward, listen to these songs as you coax yourself back to the present moment and then on to your daily routines.

  5. Walk. There is endless research confirming the restorative power of walking. After a good cry, take yourself to a park or simply walk around your neighborhood. If you live in the city, go to a gym and walk around the track. While you walk, picture you and your loved one walking together. Love never leaves you, it simply changes form.

There is no set time limit for grief. People’s healing processes vary greatly. Be gentle with yourself and allow feelings and emotions to fully pass through you. Studies show that people who allow themselves to truly experience their emotions in the moment are able to move on with their lives in healthier ways.

 

 

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Find additional resources and related articles under Find Support for Grief in the Veterinary Wisdom® Resource Center - Support for Pet Parents.

 

© 2008, Rev. 2013.  World by the Tail, Inc. All rights reserved.

Laurel Lagoni is a nationally recognized veterinary grief expert and the former Director of the Argus Institute at Colorado State University’s Veterinary Teaching Hospital. She is President of World by the Tail, Inc., and directs the Veterinary Wisdom® Resource Centers at www.veterinarywisdom.com

 

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